Public Display of Affection

We’ve all indulged in a bit of public display of affection at some point. But how much public affection is too much? And where does it cross the line? The Super Fella explores the word of public display of affection and his experiences with it.

Public display of affection is common, and even inevitable.

It is quite difficult for two frisky lovers to keep their hands off each other.

But what about the people around them?

Have you ever had an awesome or an annoying experience with public display of affection? I’ve had my share of PDA and I’ve seen a lot of public display too.

What is public display of affection?

Public display of affection or PDA as they are called, is the act of two people indulging in an intimate act in public.

It could be a couple kissing or two girls holding hands, pretty much anything that displays affection between two people.

But when one uses the term “public display of affection”, it’s usually considered to be an act that is rather physical in nature.

No one really knows what people thought of PDA in the old days. But today, public display of affection is something that most couples indulge in, at least in the beginning of their days of physical exploration and discovery.

Why do couples indulge in public display of affection?

Why do couples indulge in a bout of wild making out in front of others when they can find a room or a backseat in some isolated parking lot? Cheryl, 23, says “I love PDA. There’s something about them that makes me feel so good. I’m not trying to do that just to show off, but it’s exciting to make out in parties when there are others around.”

Each of them have their own reason to give their hands and tongues some exercise in public, but when we look through the most common reasons, you’ll find that most young lovers indulge in public display of affection because they find it exciting and it turns them on a lot more than the regular kiss in solitary confinement.

My public experience with public display of affection

We’ve all been there at least once in our lives, we wanted to watch this great movie that we’ve been waiting to watch for weeks, and we finally get the time and the ticket at the same time. Whoopee!

But then the inevitable happens. A cooing couple walk into the row ahead of you and sit down quietly. It’s all pretty and the couple look into each other’s eyes every now and then. The girl slowly places her head on his shoulders and he gently strokes her hair.

Awww… warm and sappy. They look so sweet.

He kisses her forehead and she gushes. She gives a peck on his cheek and he grins. Now you align your head strategically in between their two faces so you can watch the movie, but they seem to be moving constantly.

Half an hour passes, and then the intermission comes and goes. Beyond that point, all you can see is each of them coiling and uncoiling with affection every now and then, and you get to watch them exchanging coke, saliva, and any other bodily fluids that is comfortably permissible in the movie hall.

It’s pretty hard to figure what you want to watch, your long awaited chick flick or the live public display of affection romp in the front row. The last time I remember being in a situation like this, I chose the live public display. I could always watch the movie legally on DVD, but I can’t say the same about these horny amateurs, can I? [Read: Flashing in public for the shy]

People that hate public display of affection

Can anyone hate PDA? Yes! Of course, they can definitely hate it. A person who thinks public display of affection is sweet can also hate it, and hate it bad. You see, PDA is extremely subjective and relative. If you’re watching a movie, and a bit of love and action in the front row, only to find out that it’s your boyfriend with the girl you hate, you will definitely detest public display of affection.

If you’re taking a walk in the park and find your daughter kissing a guy in the romantic setting of the potted plants, you would definitely hate PDA.

Well, you’re probably going to kill the guy and go to jail too, which will make your spouse hate public display of affection. So you see, there can be several reasons to hate this show of love in public.

And it can also start a vicious chain of public display of affection haters, and they would only breed more haters, and then some more. You can picture this, right? Or just go watch “dawn of the dead” or “land of the dead”, or whatever shows you a horde of mindless zombies who attack the naked women and the dorky guy in their bedrooms! That will help you understand what I mean.

As much as we want people to accept that babies are not dropped by the swans at our doorsteps, moral brigades and snotty neighbors smirk or stare dirty when it comes to PDA. So why do you hate PDA? Wait, I know, you have an ugly partner!

All of  us know about making out, or want to know about making out. But yet we pretend like getting physical with someone is such a big deal.

If you stop the guy from kissing the girl in a movie theatre, they’ll stop watching movies and stay back at home so the guy can slip his hand under the girl’s shirt. So whose loss is that? You don’t get to see some action, and hell, they’re doing more naughty stuff in the room!

Now how much is really too much?

As much as I’m trying to say public display of affection is good, I’m pretty sure I would hate them at some point of my life. But then again, maybe not!

But in any case, there are a few things that should not be exceeded in PDA. This guide on public display of affection etiquette should help you understand more about it. No one wants to see any flashing of well concealed regions nor do we want to see anything gross.

If you really want to indulge in PDA, then make sure you don’t make anyone around you feel uncomfortable. Grinding and groping may be good in clubs, and kissing might be acceptable at airports and friends’ places. But in parks, I’d suggest holding hands and maybe a small kiss on the lips. Nothing more than that.

You don’t want some guy to hide in the bushes behind you and do some ‘funny’ things with himself while watching you, do you? [Read: Public flashing confessions]

If you want to indulge in something raunchier, and really want to show off, then I’d suggest you go over to a friend’s place and try your luck. Or you could even do it in your room. One last thing I want to remind you again about public display of affection is that it’s fine as long as the people around you are comfortable, or perhaps even happy. [Read: Rainbow party guide]

If not, then you’re doing the wrong thing at the wrong place. Just use your head and have fun with your public display of affection, but at no one else’s displeasure or cost.

There’s a lot more to public display of affection than just a couple making out for attention. We’re just warming up on the conversation. Click here to continue reading about couples kissing in public and why they really do it

The Little Things in Love that Makes Romance Better

Love and romance isn’t just about splurging on expensive gifts or jet-setting on luxurious vacations. What really holds true love together are the little things in love, the little acts of love that really count.

Why are little acts of love so important to keep that warm buzz of love and that glow alive?

There are times in your life when you just sit down and watch the rain pitter-patter against the window pane.

At times like these, you wish you could do so many things for your lover.

You wish you could buy her the moon, or you wish you could just take a break and gift a well deserved vacation to your hard working man.

[Read: 25 sweet romantic gestures for everyday life]

The little things in love

There are ways to brighten up your partner’s day without doing many of the thoughts that race across your mind.

You don’t have to do something big or extravagant to romance your partner. You don’t have to put in a lot of effort to make them happy.

Even better news… your partner will be most fulfilled by these little things in love that don’t require a lot of effort, planning or money!

Little things in love that really matter

These happy moments are called the little things in love, and they can be your best friend and guide in love.

Little things in love are just that… little and rather simple little acts of love that you can do for your partner. [Read: 9 relationship stages that all couples go through]

Despite the fact that they are “little” they can mean so much to your partner, and ensure that your partner would be fulfilled and happy in your relationship or marriage. And when your loved one is happy you’re happy, so it’s a win-win situation.

When we think of little things in love, the first thing that you would probably get in your mind is an expensive ring or a little holiday, but that’s the last thing you need to keep your partner happy. All you need is a lot of love and caring. And this can take you both a long way into marital bliss. A few of the things that you could do to ignite the flame of love into your life are mentioned here.

Do try one of these little acts for starters, and see for yourself how these little acts of love can make a big difference in your relationship.

Little things in love that lovers do

#1 When your partner gets home from work, ask about your partner’s day and just listen to them.

#2 Tell your partner just how special they are to you.

#3 Give a hug to your partner for no reason.

#4 Pick her a bouquet of wild flowers.

#5 Massage your partner’s back or feet after they’ve had a hard day at work.

#6 Leave an “I love you” note for your partner to find.

#7 Call him when he’s at work and tell him that you were thinking about him.

#8 When you are going to be late getting home or when you have to meet your partner, call and let them know that you’ll be late. It is very inconsiderate to make your partner wait without calling.

#9 Look into each other’s eyes when you make love.

#10 Say “I love you”…  at least a few times every day.

#11 When someone calls for your partner on the phone when they’re not around, write down a neat message so they can look through it when they get back.

#12 Hold each other’s hand in public. A little public display of affection is always good for love.

#13 Compliment her, the way she looks, her hair, her smile, her voice, her eyes, her sense of humor, her intelligence, something she has achieved, something she is proud of doing, etc.

#14 Compliment him, the way he makes you feel so special and cared for, his caring touch, his sense of humor, his passionate behavior, his possessiveness, etc.

#15 Kiss your partner when they least expect it! Ahem… as long as you’re not in the middle of an argument. [Read: Cute pet names]

These are just a few of the little things in love that really count more than all the gifts and wealth in the world. There are many more, and surely you can think of a few. Just as long as it doesn’t cost money, and makes your sweetheart feel special and cared for, it’s all great.

[Read: 25 relationship rules for success in love]

Always remember, its the little acts of love and cute love actions that matter more than anything else in the world for two people in love. A big splurge now and then is great, yes, but nothing can ever beat the little things in love!

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Love Chemistry and Sparks in Love

Do you believe in love chemistry and sparks in love when you like someone? Most people wouldn’t be able to recognize a romantic spark even if it hit them full-on on their face! Matthew Rhodes was one of those men who didn’t believe in chemistry in love until it was a tad too late…

My tryst with love chemistry

Last night, I was watching this sappy, schmaltzy movie on television. Now I’m still nowhere near my story about sparks in love and chemistry in love, but this is a good start.

I was watching The Princess Diaries II. It was a good movie, and I think Anne Hathaway is really hot, which is why I actually watched the movie in the first place.

Surprisingly, most girls I know don’t think she’s hot, which is weird, but anyways, that’s another story, to be told on another day.

But FYI, in that movie she’s made to hook up with a artsy-gay boyish suitor whom she doesn’t like but is forced to woo, if she has to become the Queen of Genovia. Whoooo! The plot thickens to the echelon of a thick tomato soup.

In one particular scene though, the artsy boy and our cute-as-a-button Princess kiss each other in a moment of haste, to see if there is a chance to find true love chemistry between them.

They kiss. They part. I waited with bated breath, and Anne Hathaway looks at him with a blank deer-in-the-headlights expression and tells him that she couldn’t find that spark!

Sparks in love and love chemistry

Wait a minute now! Whatwusthat? She couldn’t find the spark in love? I hate it when women say that. Why does everything have to revolve around that blooming spark?

Girls get scared of lightning sparks, but need the same when they fall in love? In the movie, the good groom-to-be takes the comment as a gentlemen and tells her that he too didn’t feel the spark in the kiss. And they hug and decide to marry anyways. Seriously, WTF?!

Chemistry in love and my life

Spinning around to my world now, my story has a bit of a cheese twister in it. I liked this girl for several months and we used to hang out. We were great friends, and we had so much in common. She was really hot too, and I, like all guys with really hot friends, had a crush on her.  [Read: Falling in love with a friend]

On the other hand, she, like all hot friends who don’t think along the same lines, didn’t know that!

She was seeing someone already since granny’s years, which was all fine because we weren’t really falling in love fast. We work together in the same office and everything was grand. The months flew, and the two birds, that’s me and her for the less informed, started liking each other. She was in love with her guy, but there was something between us that was really sweet, fun and mushy at the same time.

The plot thickens with the love chemistry

And then came the plot thickening, tear jerking story line. I moved on to another job because of the designation and the pay check. We missed each other and we kept in touch through phone calls, mails, snaps and a bit of text flirting. [Read: How to text flirt with a friend] And then, a few months into the phone calls, we both realized that we liked each other. A lot.

We used to do all the corny little chick-flick stuff like watch the same DVDs at the same time, and call each other during the movie to chat. Long distance dating, baby! We were on a date, long distance, watching the same scenes and talking to each other with popcorn and cola. Now, that’s hi-tech dating, I tell you.

We wanted to meet each other but time just wouldn’t permit. And each time we decided to meet up, there was always something or the other that got in the way. The daily calls shifted to mush and sweet love, and we spent long hours talking to each other. There was mush every day, and on those days when the love was low and the minutes were few, we ended up missing each other all the more.

One fine day earlier this month, we finally decided to meet up and planned the whole day out. It was a movie and coffee date, which was great as it had been several months since we had seen each other. The day before the date, we were all excited and happy to see each other. I wanted to kiss her on the date [Read: How to kiss a girl on the first date], and I mentioned it aloud to her. Her bubbly blush almost had me melting in my couch. At that time, there was nothing in the world to bother me. Life is beautiful. I love my city. O๠il fait bon vivre!

Setting the sparks in love on fire

The next day, as planned, we both skipped work and met up at a mall. We watched a mushy movie and held hands the whole while. We whispered and giggled, and we just cuddled. The perfect way to watch a movie. After the movie, we went to a café and the mush was at an all time high. The sparks in love were ready to explode.

At that point, she was my girlfriend, and I, her boyfriend. There was so much tension between us, and the chemistry in love was incredible. Soon, it was late in the evening, and time for the inevitable parting. I wanted to kiss her, and she knew that, but we never had the opportunity. The movie hall was crowded and she wasn’t very much into public display of affection, not at least with some guy who wasn’t ‘her boyfriend’.

That’s what I presumed anyways. We sat down in my car, and headed to her place. A little something in my head squirmed inside me. Maybe, just maybe, there was still a chance to kiss her. The whole way, my lips were extra-dry and my throat was parched.

I was panicking, and the drive seemed exceptionally short. We got to her place, and she didn’t have her keys. And her sister who was supposed to be home was out. Rats! There isn’t any privacy on the streets anymore.

Hoping for another chance

She phoned her sister and apparently, both of them were supposed to go over to their cousin’s place for dinner that night. She smiled and asked me to drop her off at her cousin’s place. My heart was beating, and fast. I was running out of luck big time. We drove over to her cousin’s place, and thankfully the streets were dark. Little rays of light every now and then.

Good. I shut the engine and held her hand. I licked my lips discreetly. She saw that. And laughed! Ouch!! A few minutes in the car, on a dark street, a lonely one. Sweet! All of a sudden, I saw the bright light of opportunity. This was it, I knew it.  The sparks in love will fly any moment now. I was supposed to kiss her. And if I couldn’t seize this moment, perhaps I would never ever recognize opportunity even if it knocks me down on a railroad!

Sparks in love. Ignite!

I moved in for the kiss, and I wrapped my arms around her. She smiled at me and hugged me. It felt so damn good, I wouldn’t know how to explain it even if I tried. I parted slightly from the hug and kissed her cheeks, and then her neck, and got closer to her lips. And finally, I pressed my lips softly against hers, and there it was, bursts of lightning and flashlights. I was falling down, G-Force was on a hundred fold, and it felt ecstatic.

A few seconds of blind maneuvering later, I opened my eyes. And there she was, staring into me like she just saw a ghost! I looked at her, trying to read her mind. She didn’t seem too happy, but she wasn’t going to slap me either.

“Well…?” I asked her.

“I’m so sorry, but I just didn’t feel the spark!”

The balloons burst. Again and again in slow motion. The waves crashed like a typical movie scene. I felt like a Lilliputian. My respiratory system failed. I lost my voice. What was that? It registered!

Omigawd, what had she just said? I was devastated. I just laughed out though, and so did she. She apologized again and told me she was so sorry, but she just couldn’t feel a thing. Well, another try then?

Nope. She just knew it. It wasn’t going to happen! Awww…. Come on! Why worry about sparks of love when I could get fireworks, then? Nope.

A spark? Now, what the hell was that? No one ever told me anything about sparks in love! But then, we were friends too, so we hugged and I thanked her for a nice time and hit the road. The whole way, all I could think of was the damn spark.  And what it had to do with chemistry in love.

Licking my wounds. Hating sparks.

I got back home and we chatted late at night. We laughed about it, and I pestered her to tell me more about our “special” kiss. She elaborated about not feeling the spark, the chemistry in love when we kissed. She told me that she loved me, and that I was very special and cute, but yet, she just couldn’t connect with me when we kissed.

All of a sudden, at that moment, I felt like I was her gay confidante. The same guy who hangs out, talks about panties and boobie sizes, and yet the girls don’t get attracted to him sexually. What? I couldn’t help but feel like I was the King of Loserville!

Ewww! Wait a second, even ewww sounds gay! I should say “Damn!” We talked for a few hours about our ‘Gay Date’, and life was back to normal. My manhood wasn’t, though. I still felt emasculated. I remembered ‘Bedazzled’, the movie in which Brendan Fraser turns into a gay and kisses his crush, and couldn’t find the spark.

Ouch! A further shrink in manhood. Maybe I just rushed it, that’s what I think. Maybe I should have stuck with the Rule Book, moved in 90% and waited for her to move in the 10% so she could have been ready for it. Yeah? Maybe. That’s all she said. Or maybe I should just wear fluorescent pants and a short navel revealing body-fit silk shirt, and get my right ear pierced. Damn!

The importance of chemistry in love

Life was back to normal again for us. We still talk on phone, and I’ve gotten over that incident. I still try and convince her to forget the fact that we kissed that day. I still blame the café though. Maybe they had laced her drink with some kind of “anti-love spark feeler” powder. [Read: Best places to go on a first date]

She laughs each time I say that. Could she give me another chance? I hope so. We still share our Muah’s and I love you’s on phone. I still don’t know much about sparks in love, but I’m hoping the next time we meet, there would be something like that in her head, well, if that makes her feel better when she kisses me!

Moving on with my life

I’ve gotten over my Gay Boy alter-ego, and I’m starting to feel like a man again. Yeah man!  And we’ve been keeping the mushy and lovey conversations going too. I think she would feel that spark the next time I kiss her. Serious! I’m not going to make the first move though, I’ll stick with my 90% and wait for her 10%. Someday, just someday, I think she’ll take that 10% and kiss me back.

But hey, until then, we’re happy to be there for each other. It’s a good life, and in our personal secret love story [Read: Romantic love stories]that’s loaded with chemistry, she’s my beautiful princess and I, her prince charming!

I still hate sparks in love

But you know what? I still think I’m going to hate that damn thing called Spark! It’s annoying, frustrating, and most of all, it made me feel emasculated, for crying out loud!!! And whatever it is, just as long as she feels it, I’m happy about it.

But thinking aloud, if only I knew what the hell that spark thing was, perhaps our first kiss story may have been really memorable. But it still is. So what’s the moral I see in my story? Ahem… In love, maybe you don’t really need a spark to make a kiss memorable. You just need two people who love each other against all odds, and are willing to give each other a second chance. Who needs sparks in love when you really do want a second chance, eh? What say you?

Chemistry in love and sparks in love may not always reveal itself in an obvious manner. But in those unfortunate moments like first kisses, it vanishes just when you need it most. We sure do know a lot of spark haters out there!

Cute Pet Names and Lovers

Do you keep cute pet names for your boyfriend or girlfriend? Pet names have a history, and they’re secretly special. But why do so many couples use pet names when their partner actually has a real name?

Cute pet names are definitely one of the next steps in any relationship, isn’t it?

It doesn’t matter if it is cuddly-dums or loving-pumps, it’s all cute in love.

There you are, just cuddling with each other and your lover babbles out a very funny barely pronounceable word, most probably based out of your antics or body parts.

[Read: 25 biggest relationship rules for successful love]

There’s one moment of silence, followed by a chortle of laughter or a grin of embarrassment.

And the whole story unfolds with that little word, and in that quiet moment of cuddly love, you are officially given a pet name.

The world of cute pet names

Pet names. They’re so amusing and yet, so cute.

You obviously don’t want your friends to know your pet name, so you’re probably going to tell your lover something like, “Just don’t call me ‘Perky Nips’ in front of my friends, okay, Hungo?”

When you think about it, pet names have more of a meaning than just lovers’ babble.

It’s all about adding a new level of identity and intimacy to a special someone, to set apart the relationship between two people. [Read: How to have a perfect new relationship]

Why not just call your lover by their name?

Many single people ask this question and wonder aloud. But the answer’s pretty simple. When you really like something like a soft toy or someone like a lover, you want to cuddle and sink into that person or thing. You feel all warm and fuzzy inside, and you’re filled with joy and happiness. Your instincts recreate a scenario where you feel like a blissful baby, lost for words and feel euphoric and helpless, just like how you babble when you’re drunk!

At times like these, you end up saying something out loud. And in most cases, it’s got something to do with your lover’s body parts during afterplay or the way your lover makes you feel. It may be a stupid word, but it’s still filled with all the emotions that you could sum up in that happy moment. [Read: How to be happy in a relationship]

Cute pet names and love

Pet names are a lot like general nicknames, but in this case, it’s a lot more personal and special. It’s something that defines your relationship. It may be from a friend, a sibling or a lover. The fact that this person considers you special enough to give you a name that’s personal and has a special importance between you both reveals a lot about how special you are to them.

And all these names are a part of the complicated language of love. The language of love is universal, but it definitely comes in several dialects. One couple who find it cute to call each other “num-nums” may find another couple calling each other “honey-pot” stupid. [Read: 25 cute romantic gestures for everyday life]

Cute pet names and men

A man may feel that pet names are a feminine thing, so even if he was using any special words to call his girl, he may refrain from using them in public. Let’s just say, a man feels like he’s wearing frilly pink skirts when he’s caught using pet names in public. That’s usually the case, unless the guy has some macho-stud nickname for his woman like ‘girlie’, ‘babe’ or ‘chick’, which is comfortably used even in front of others.

On the other hand, women become real babies when it comes to love and cute pet names. They tend to baby talk a lot more than men. And they don’t mind doing that in public either. Well, that’s in most cases anyways.

There are no sources here, but it seems like women started calling their men by a pet name, and this trend eventually rubbed off on men. After all, women are a lot better connected to their inner child and feelings of love than men.

Cute pet names and ex lovers

Men and women apart, pet names themselves too have their own problems. There are a few pet names that are universal, like ‘honey’, ‘baby’ and ‘cutie’, and there are a few pet names that are non-transferable. If you’ve called someone by a particular name earlier, there’s no way you’re ever supposed to use the same pet name with your present partner. Not only would it feel weird, it’s like calling out an ex’s name in bed, don’t you think? [Read: Things to talk about in a perfect relationship]

Pet names are personal

It’s always easy to go with widely accept names like ‘sweetheart’ and ‘honey’, but you have to remember that a cute pet name is personal and special. If you still don’t have a pet name for each other, don’t worry about it. Pet names have a tendency of just popping up out of the blue. And when you hear a pet name, you’ll know. Don’t force a pet name out just to fit in. Wait for it to come naturally.

[Read: 10 types of love you’ll experience in your life]

All said and done, pet names are special and romantic. It’s personal and no lover really cares if others don’t get what the word means. As long as lovers feels special and cared for, cute pet names are here to stay!

Love at First Sight – The Real Truth Behind It

Do you believe in love at first sight? Many people have varying degrees of acceptance when it comes to this kind of love because, quite frankly,  it’s rather shallow. But what does one feel when they experience this? Matt Preston reveals the truth.

As cliché as love at first sight may sound, it’s truly an experience of a lifetime.

Falling in love in an instant

I remember the first time I experienced love at first sight.

I was in my eighth grade, just a little boy sitting in an audience, watching a theatrical play at an interschool competition.

I was mildly fascinated, look at all the new faces in the crowd, from different schools. As I scanned the full hall, my eyes saw a girl I had never seen before.

She was sitting a couple of seats to my left, and she was beautiful, divine.

Barely did I see her face for a few seconds and my world stopped for a moment, and everything blurred into oblivion, everything but her beautiful face.

A moment later, she turned towards me and looked back at me. Our eyes met and at that moment, in an instant beyond time frames, I came face to face with a new emotion.

It was overwhelming in all senses of the word.

My stomach jolted and twisted in coils and I wanted to throw up. My body heated up instantly like I was experiencing spontaneous human combustion, and I felt dizzy and numb.

But yet, with all these horrible emotions flowing through me, I felt deliriously happy. And I felt so light, like I could fly, no, like I could just turn into mist and poof!

When our eyes met

Our eyes met for what seemed like eternity, or perhaps just a second or two in reality, and I just had to look away. I don’t know why, but if I had stared any longer I would have thrown up [Read: The secret behind the first glance]. It was a perfect blend of ecstasy and fear. My adrenalin was pumping and my heart was beating so hard I could feel my tongue vibrating in sync.

Within moments, I realized I was addicted to her. I just had to look back at her and stare at that beautiful face. I couldn’t help thinking God must have been high when he created her. She was beyond an inspiration.

I kept glancing at her nervously, taking in as much of her as I could, but it was never enough. I was craving to see her face, like a man gasping for air at a high altitude. And every now and then, when our eyes met, I had a relapse of stomach jolts and intoxication. [Read: Law of attraction in love]

This happened back and forth for almost an hour, and with each passing minute, I was drawn deeper and deeper into this experience.

What happened next?

Well, love at first sight was a good start. But falling in love immediately also makes you lose your senses. I tried talking to her that day, but I was a nervous wreck.

She turned me down, and I never did see her ever again [Read: What to talk about on a date]. But that first memory of experiencing love was so intense that I can still visualize it like it happened just yesterday, even though that incident probably took place close to two decades ago. [Read: Short loves stories]

But now I know why I experienced such emotions and felt that way towards that girl. Frankly, it wasn’t my fault, because there’s more to love at first sight than meets the eye!

Evolution and love at first sight

Over the course of human evolution, we’ve progressed and evolved to become better at a few things that really matter. We’ve learnt to eat, procreate and survive.

And there are a lot of complex processes that subconsciously set things into motion when these three things that really matter enter the picture. When it comes to procreation, evolution has taught us how to fall in love, get sexually excited by someone, and desire someone passionately. [Read: The meaning of love]

Falling in love at first sight

All of us have created a subconscious mental image of our potential partner. When we walk into a room, without really realizing it, you’ll find yourself liking a few potential partners and not bothering with a few.

And at times, a potential partner whom you are attracted to may start warming up to you or get attracted to you too. So does love at first sight work? It most definitely does!

Science playing matchmaker

Not all of us fall in love within seconds. It has been seen in studies that men are more prone to falling in love immediately than women. It seems like men are more stimulated by visual appeal than women. On the other hand, women experience romantic chemistry a lot better than men. [Read: Chemistry in love]

What does that mean? Men know they like a woman the very second they see her. But in the case of women, they usually fall in love with someone after the first conversation.

Kissing secrets, body odor and love

Did you know that your first kiss can affect your chemistry in love too? Studies have shown that the exchange of saliva can also be a test for love. Every time you kiss, genes of major histocompatibility complex [MHC] get exchanged between two people, and if your genes share too many similarities, you might actually get turned off and lose the attraction, says Dr. Claus Wedekind at the University of Edinburg.

And it’s not just the kiss, your body odor too can predict whether you will experience love at first sight.

Subconsciously, all of us are drawn to certain scents in our partner’s bodies. Did you get a whiff of true love when you’re rubbing shoulders at a party? You’re definitely going to experience love at first sight that night.

Beyond the science of love

Leaving how science plays matchmaker apart, falling in love or experiencing love at first sight can be a beautiful sensation. While our pheromones, genes and body odors are hard at work in the background, all we experience in our mind are intense highs and delirious moments like a junkie high on coke.

Instead of worrying about whether it’s going to work out or not, leave the soothsaying questions to evolution. If both of you find yourselves getting attracted to each other when you meet for the first time, there’s a very good chance that evolution has handpicked a perfect match.

So watch out for this elusive kind of love. What follows may or may not be perfect, but that first flutter of butterflies in the stomach is truly something that makes falling in love at first sight one of the best experiences of a lifetime!

Relationship Facts – Did You Know?

There are a lot of weird things about us humans, and here’s a list of facts that prove just that! Some of these did you know relationship facts are not-so-obvious, and some are just ridiculous, but hey, they’ve got a point!

Leaving your marriage?

Only 10% of people who leave their marriage end up marrying the person with whom they had an affair. [Read: Having an affair with a married man]

Heated arguments

In an argument with your partner, when your heart rate goes over 100 beats per minute, you are incapable of hearing what your partner is trying to tell you.

Lesbians anyone?

50% of men claim they would feel comfortable if their girlfriend had a lesbian lover. [Read: Why men love girls kissing]

Lustful men

The average man sees five women a day with whom he would like to sleep with. [Read: Why do men stare at women?]

Friends are important

40% of women would consider dumping a boyfriend if her friends didn’t like him.

One hour

The time it takes for a woman to determine whether or not she wants to date a man again. [Read: Is he in love with you?]

15 minutes

The time it takes for a man to determine whether or not he wants to date a woman again. [Read: How to tell if a guy likes you]

Wednesday

The best day for a first date according to 41% of singles. [Read: Best place to go on a first date]

Goodbye kisses

Studies indicate that a man who kisses his wife goodbye when he leaves for work averages a higher income than the guy who doesn’t do that. Husbands who show affection are said to be more stable and methodical, and thus, end up receiving bigger pay checks.

French connection

What is known as a French Kiss in the English speaking world is called an English Kiss in France.

Chocolate love

Chocolate contains phenyl ethylamine, a natural substance that is believed to stimulate the same reaction in the body as falling in love.

Facing copulation

Humans are the only species that copulate face to face.

Words per day

On an average, women say over 7,000 words per day. Men manage just over 2,000.

The large cell

The largest cell in the human body is the ovum, or the egg cell. It is about 1/180 inch in diameter. The smallest cell in the human body is the male sperm. It takes 175,000 sperms to weigh as much as a single egg cell.

[Read: What guys always notice on a date]

[Read: What girls always notice on a date]

Got any more fun relationship facts that you know? Share your thoughts!

Psychological Facts About Love – Unique Love Facts

Falling in love is a wonderful experience, but there are so many strange psychological facts about love too. Do you know why you blush or kiss in love? Or why heartbreaks hurt so much?

Read these love facts to know more.

Love fact #1 Love makes us crazy

For one thing, love causes serotonin levels in the brain to drop, which may lead people to obsess about their lover.

[Read: 25 relationship rules for successful love]

The levels of serotonin, a chemical produced by the body, are also low in people who have obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Next, it ramps up production of the stress hormone cortisol, leading to slightly higher blood pressure and possible loss of sleep.

Scientists at the University of London have found that when people look at their new lover, the neural circuits that are usually in charge of social judgment are suppressed.

All in all, love kind of leaves you obsessive, stressed, and blind!

[Read: What really happens in your mind when you fall in love]

Love fact #2 Broken hearts always hurt

A new study suggests the psychological hurt of a break up is just as real as a physical injury.

Two areas of the brain that respond to physical pain also become activated when a person is dealing with social or romantic pain, such as being dumped.

The study’s authors at UCLA used an MRI to monitor brain activity in participants while they played a game simulating social rejection.

The researchers believe that the pain of being rejected may have evolved as a motivating force that led humans to seek out social interaction, which is crucial for the survival of most mammals. [Read: Did-you-know relationship facts]

Love fact #3 Kiss the right way

Did you know there is a “right” way to kiss? People are more likely to tilt their heads to the right when kissing instead of left, says a report published in the journal, Nature. A scientist from Ruhr University in Germany analyzed 124 pairs of smoochers and found that 65 percent tilt their head toward the right.

Love fact #4 Blushing is best

If we take our cue from apes, rosy cheeks are crucial in the dating game, says a new study. Scientists at Stirling University in Great Britain have found that primates prefer mates with red faces. [Read: The real secret behind attraction and love at first sight]

A rosy glow might also act as a similar cue in humans, say the British researchers, sending a message of good health. They speculate that it could explain why women use blushers.

[Read: 10 very revealing facts about love and dating!]

Now it’s official. With these psychological facts about love, we can see that love is strange and some love facts are definitely crazy!

How to Make Him Miss You and Call You More

Ever wondered how to make him miss you more often, or make him call you more? Here are all the tips and sneaky tricks you’d need to make your man miss you more, and desire you all the time.

Click here to read the first five tips on how to make him want you more and obsess about you all the time.

Knowing how to make him miss you or make him call you more is a tricky pursuit.

You can’t really whine and tell him that you miss him, and wish he’d call you more often.

But could there be a way to make him miss you more, just like that?

[Read: 30 super tips to keep a guy interested in you]

How to make him miss you

How many times have we sat by the phone wondering what the man in our life is up to, and when is he ever going to call us again!

Now I’m not saying men don’t think about their girlfriends.

But I am indeed saying that the novelty of a new relationship wears off faster for a man than for a woman.

Why does this happen? Well, it’s simple, because women give in too easily and reveal all even more easily.

Learn how to make him call you more and miss you more by understanding these simple tips.

HOW TO MAKE HIM MISS YOU

#1 Surprise him

There’s no point in being an open book early in a relationship.

Keep him interested and into you by mentioning to him the summer you spent in Paris by yourself or your skills on the violin. Go out to a karaoke bar one night and floor him with your singing ability.

Never let him know who you really are, let him experience that by being with you. [Read: How to make a guy fall deeply in love with you]

#2 Be sincere

Make him feel like he’s found his soul mate in you. The idea is to be sincere.

Genuinely listen to what he has to say. Ask questions, and keep in mind what and who he talks about so that the next time he brings it up, you can show him that you actually do listen.

#3 Have no expectations

It’s a common mistake that every girl makes when she expect that a man is as hooked on you as you are on him, or that he is going to be exactly like your sappy man-child of an ex-boyfriend. Remind yourself why you ditched your ex.

If he doesn’t arrive at your doorstep with a dozen red roses every day, it does not mean that he is not into you. [Read: How to think like a man and impress your guy]

HOW TO MAKE HIM MISS YOU – DIRTY, SNEAKY WAYS!

Read on for a few really sneaky ways to make him miss you and make him call you more.

#1 Hang up before he does

If you end the conversation before he does, it’ll keep him wanting more. Admit it, it happens to you all the time. Well, maybe in some cases, playing hard to getreally does work.

#2 Do not accept any last minute dates

This is a sneakier variant of the first way to make him miss you more. Never, I repeat, never ever make it seem like you’re poised at the edge of your seat waiting for him to make time for you. Not only does this make you look like the ultimate loser, it will make him take you for granted. You should never accept the option of being Plan B.

#3 Great perfume

Pick the perfect perfume, and remember that the key word here is subtlety. You’ll know it has worked when he keeps leaning in. But remember to take it easy and not douse yourself in fragrances. You’d also want a leave a trace of it on him so that he remembers you after he drives you home. [Read: Tips to increase your sex appeal]

MAKE HIM CALL YOU MORE: WILL IT WORK?

So what do you do if (god forbid) all your hard work doesn’t work and he still doesn’t call more or miss you more? First of all, don’t jump into conclusions. For all you know, there could have been an emergency.

You may call once or leave a message but do not overdo it and fill his inbox with “whr r u” and “y hvnt u cald” messages. Secondly do not obsess, immerse yourself in those hobbies you wowed him with. And finally if he calls you a month later without an excuse asking you out on a date, do not accept it. That would be an insult to your womanhood.

You have to accept rejection as a part of life and that it happens to everyone all the time. If things don’t work out, don’t sweat it.

[Read: Signs he’s definitely into you]

After all, you do know the best tips on how to make him miss you and make him call you more. If it’s not working, perhaps he’s just not that into you.

Dating Facts – Interesting Facts about Dating

We’re all involved in love and relationships, but how many dating facts do you really know about your own relationship? Here are a few great dating facts that you may never have heard of.

#1 The balance of love

When two people are in love with each other, at any point of time, one person will always love the other person a lot more.

Now this doesn’t mean one person will hate their partner while another person is madly in love with their mate.

What it actually means is that, when two people are in love, only one person plays a great part in holding the relationship together, while the other person just goes along on the ride.

#2 Attractive women

Attractive women who are married to ordinary looking men are more prone to having affairs. Even if the attractive women aren’t really looking for a fling thing, other men will be less intimidated to approach a woman who’s married a guy who is less than perfect.

And it’s only a matter of time before the married woman gives into temptation with a better man.

#3 Attractive men

Attractive men married to average looking women are less prone to having an extra marital affair. Men are physical creatures and place beauty and attractive looks beyond almost everything else.

But when a great looking man chooses to fall in love with a woman who’s not really good looking, it’s some other aspects of her that’s drawn him to fall in love with her. These men are hard to find, and harder to fall for lustful temptations.

#4 Why we fall in love

We’ve all experienced this dating fact, and we know it’s true. Guys are more likely to fall in love based on a girl’s appearance, while girls are more likely to be drawn towards a guy’s behavior. So it’s clear, love at first sight only exists for guys! [Read: Love at first sight – The real truth]

While guys fall in love with a girl within the first minute, girls take a long time to really fall for a guy.

#5 The length of love

The longer the courtship in the initial days, the longer the relationship will be.

Flings and wildly intense passionate affairs are great, but they’re not good for long term relationships. If both of you are intensely passionate and end up having sex just about everywhere at the start of a new relationship, you should understand that the foundation of your relationship is sex, and not love. So what happens when the flame of sexual chemistry flickers after a year or so?

Unfortunately, in most cases, the relationship ends too. So if you really want to fall in love with someone, take time to fall in love and understand each other. Build a solid foundation based on love instead of anything else.

#6 Physical touches

Physical intimacy and physical closeness increases the chance of falling in love. Friends fall in love all the time [Read: Falling for a friend]. Colleagues at work end up having affairs or falling in love all the time. Physical contact creates an aphrodisiacal impact on members of the opposite sex. Touchy feely flirting may actually be a great way to get someone to fall in love with you.

So remember this the next time you’re trying to woo someone. Try and spend more time with your crush in person, instead of speaking over the phone. And your crush might just end up falling in love with you.

#7 Affairs are more sexually exciting

This is a dating fact that’s not really great to hear, but it’s true. Affairs are always more sexually exciting than long term relationships. It’s unfortunate but true. Having sex with someone outside the relationship will always be much more exciting and sexually gratifying than having sex with your own partner from a long term relationship.

Having sex with someone new for the first time may be one of the reasons, but the bigger reason is the risk that you’re taking to have an affair. The adrenalin rush of having sex with someone new, coupled with the fear of getting caught heightens the sexual excitement to a frenzy that can’t be matched by long term sex. [Read: Having an affair with a married man]

#8 Love makes you happy and sad

People who are in relationships and love their partner are the happiest people, and are more satisfied with their life than most happy singles. At the same time, people who are in a relationship, but are unhappy with their partner, find themselves more depressed and hate their life a lot more than most singles who are depressed.

[Read: How to know if you are in love]

#9 Making someone love you

Here’s a dating fact that can play in your favor. If you ever want someone to fall in love with you, plan an unconventional date strategy. You could go to a restaurant for the first date, and go to an amusement park or something just as scary and thrilling for the second date. By going to a restaurant, both of you can learn more about each other which is the most important step to create an emotional connection.

Going to an amusement park on the second date can actually make your date fall in love with you. Studies have shown that scary rides like roller coasters and Ferris wheels increase the production of adrenalin, which also simulates arousal which can actually increase the attraction between two people. This is particularly obvious for girls. [Read: Best places to go on a first date]

There are so many interesting things that love can do to us, and these dating facts are just a few unique facts of many that we experience all the time.

How to Know If You Are in Love

Falling in love is a wonderful and crazy feeling that’s worth experiencing at least once in our lives. When you know you are falling in love, the way you look at the world and experience life can change in a moment. But the bigger question is how to know if you are in love? Well, find out here.

Falling in love is an experience worth living for. And the first time you fall in love, that’s a memory of a lifetime. But how to know if you are in love in the first place?

All of us have our own experiences in love, and every moment is as unique as the person who is falling in love.

Many believe in love at first sight while many others think the best kind of love is one where two friends understand each other and fall in love gradually. [Read: Love facts]

Now however you may fall in love, the feelings are all the same. And when you’re in love, you’ll just know!

When you fall in love with someone, you start to experience feelings and urges that are quite unexplainable and confusing.

Read these signs to know if you are in love. [Read: Dating facts]

How to know if you are in love

Falling is love may be a single emotion, but that single emotion can cause so many hormonal, chemical and emotional changes, it’s almost unbelievable.

You’re definitely in love if you’re experiencing these emotions.

Butterflies in your stomach

For anyone who experiences falling in love it first sight, you can’t really help but experience butterflies in your stomach.

It’s a vague sensation of wanting to throw up and trying to get to the loo at the same time. [Read: Love at first sight]

Your stomach starts to perform intricate back flips and the insides of your stomach feel like they’re fluttering!

So why does this happen? Surprisingly, no one really knows why this even happens! But it just does.

Some scientists believe this is due to the release of adrenalin by your body because of the nervousness you experience when you fall in love at first sight.

Unexplained happiness

Do you find yourself kissing pillows, jumping up and down in excitement and joy for no apparent reason and giving your lover funny little pet names? You may just be in love. [Read: Cute pet names]

According to Helen Fisher, anthropologist from Rutgers University, when you fall in love, the levels of dopamine in the brain increase due to the increased blood flow to the regions where the receptors of dopamine are present. Dopamine, a pleasure chemical, makes you more excited, energetic and full of life.

The dopamine released in the brain make you feel sleepless, restless, full of happiness and make you think about your lover, a lot. Ever taken cocaine? That’s just like an intense burst of dopamine!

You can’t think of anyone else

When you’re in love, you can’t really think of anything else but your lover. They’d be tirelessly running around in your mind and you can’t work, remember things or focus on other interests. This is due to norepinephrine, a chemical compound that gets released along with dopamine, in the brain.

You get sexually attracted… a lot!

In a study conducted on several young couples madly in love, it was seen that the levels of serotonin, a neurotransmitter found mostly in the intestinal tract, dropped dangerously low, something that’s experienced by people suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder.

But on the other hand, it was noticed that low serotonin levels in young couples increased the desire to have sex. Talk about evolution’s way of forcing the ritual of baby making while we’re completely attracted to each other! [Read: Public display of affection]

You get depressed easily

Do you get upset easily if the person you like upsets you in any manner? Well, you may be in love. While the drop in the serotonin level makes you more horny, it also makes you depressed and anxious!

Even the smallest of things can upset you or your lover, and both of you may end up spending a lot of time trying to please each other with little acts of love and affection. While each act of love increases the love and attraction, each disappointment makes you more vulnerable to pain and depression. [Read: Little things in love]

How to know if you are in love

Falling in love with someone, and staying in love with someone are two completely different experiences. While most people believe it was love right from the beginning, falling in love actually begins with a note of lust and sexual excitement along with the flutter of love.

Falling in love is like a drug, and unfortunately, just like a drug, it doesn’t really last forever. While the levels of chemicals like dopamine and serotonin gradually come back to normal after a few months or years depending on the type of relationship, it’s up to the lovers to find ways to keep the excitement in love alive.

Every time you have a crush on someone, the whole game of chemistry in love starts firing the Bunsen burners and we’re back to square one all over again. [Read: Chemistry in love]

But evolution and the hormone oxytocin though, have found a way to make lovers seek commitment and make couples fall in love forever. It has created stages in love, and all these experiences are just one single stage in the process of falling in love.

So how to know if you are in love? You’re going to be experiencing every single emotion that’s been explained here. But is your love going to last forever? Well, that’s a whole different story!