9 Signs it’s the Right Time to Say I Love You


Few things are more terrifying than dropping the “L” word for the first time.


– What if you say it too early?
– Will you look desperate or needy, or worse crazy?
– What if you wait too long and your significant other thinks you just aren’t that into them?
– Will the ship sail because you waited too long?
The list of “what ifs” goes on and on. We have all been locked in that position of fear and nerves.
If you are wrestling with this very issue, it’s okay, take a deep breath and check out these 9 signs it’s the right time to say, I love you.
The Right Time to Say I Love You


1. You have been dating for a while
There is no hard and fast rule, some say at least 5 dates, others three months, and others 6 months. Love at first sight sounds great, and if your relationship last for years and years, you can tell the grand-kids, it was love at first sight.
But, in reality it takes time to get to know someone, time to love them, all of them. And it takes time for them to have the chance to fall in love with you. So give yourself and your relationship time, probably more than 5 dates, maybe somewhere in-between that 3 and 6 month mark.
2. You are pretty darn certain you mean it
Yes, this seems obvious, but in reality it isn’t. The fact is there is infatuation and there is love, wait until you have moved past infatuation and into love.  In the beginning it’s all butterflies and giggles. Everything our partner does is so adorable, that is infatuation.
If your partner is still “just so perfect” then you are not ready. On the other hand while we all have nerves and jitters, if you are wrestling with the question, “Do I love this person?” You are not ready. Do not tell them you do.
3. You are both on the same page about your relationship
In the land of movies often one person rushes up to the other professes their love and the other person responds with something that boils down to, “I love you too, I have always loved you, I was just waiting for you to say it to take our relationship seriously and stop dating these 7 other people.”
In the real world, love doesn’t generally work like that. Before you take the leap and drop the “L” bomb on your partner make sure that you are both on the same page about the seriousness of your relationship.
4. Make sure “I love you” means the same thing to both of you
Communication is a tricky little beast. One person’s interpretation of something can vary greatly from another’s.  The “I love you” step is a lot to absorb on its own. What’s worse is when you say I love you and your partner hears, “I love you, let’s start looking at wedding venues.”
Especially if that isn’t what you meant. I am not suggesting you turn I love you into a written outline of your feelings and intentions. I am suggesting that when you say the words, you say them in a way that your partner hears exactly what you meant to say.
5. The right moment is not during sex


Again I blame movies. This might feel like the right moment. I promise it isn’t. If your partner’s response is anything other than, “I love you too” do you really want to be in the middle of sex to have that conversation? No, no you don’t.
6. You cannot hold it in anymore
A great sign you are ready to say I love you, is that you can barely stop yourself from saying it. If those three words are ready to leap from your mouth every time you talk to your partner, maybe it is time to go ahead and let them slip out. If you’re mouth is so certain you are fighting to not say it, it’s time to say it.
7. Do not wait too long
I know, you have worked out every possible way this could go wrong. You are nervous, scared, and maybe a little shy. So you are just going to wait, if they love you your partner will say it first. Except, what if that is exactly how your man feels?
If you are in love, if you can check off most every other item off this list, it is time. Tell him, don’t let time slip by, don’t let love slip by. Sometimes we wait so long that love slips away, better to try than to not try at all.
8. You love the ugly parts too
Love is messy, dirty, and at times gross. Love isn’t just the great moments, the fun moments, the good things, and the sexy bits. Love is not wearing your makeup and not being uncomfortable. Love is morning breath, and dealing with your partner’s family and their friends, whether or not you like them.


Love is when you take care of your partner when they have the flu rather than avoiding them until they feel better. If you are ready for the ugly parts, it’s love. If he is there for the ugly parts, even better!
9. Build up to actually saying it
People in love do things for each other. Little things go a long way. Before you go all the way and actually say the words, start by saying it in actions. A great way to get both of you ready for the big moment is to start showing your love.
For everyone that is different, but if you think about it you can come up with a few little things you can do that would be sweet, kind, loving, and totally you, that your partner will completely love. So start doing those little things.
Okay, I am going to say it…
The what ifs are still there, I am sure. Just breath deep. When you do say it don’t freak out if you don’t get an immediate response. Don’t apologize. Do not respond for your partner. Give them a moment, give them two, heck give them a day or two.
Do not turn I love you into a giant production. There is a lot of pressure and emotion in just saying and hearing those words for the first time in a relationship. So pick a moment that feels genuine, don’t try to manufacture one.

10 Surefire Signs You Are Falling in Love With Him


In the movies a woman always know, when she is falling in love with a man, but in real life it never seems that easy.


We can agonize over every aspect of our relationships, and falling in love is no exception.
Want to be sure if you are falling in love with him or is it just an infatuation? Check out below and you will get to know!
10 signs that you just might be falling in love with him
1. You include him in your long term plans


When you are making plans for next year are you including him? If he answer is yes then subconsciously you have decided he is going to be around for a while. When you make goals do you say “we” instead of “I”? Or, when you are making major decisions do you consider how it will affect it him? If you are factoring him in to important aspects of your life and your life plans than you just might be falling in love with him.
2. You really, really, really want to tell him you love him
If you are bursting at the seems to say those 3 magic words, you are probably in love. And if you aren’t “in love” you are definitely falling in love. It is one thing to ponder loving someone, but once you reach the point that you are desperate to shout it from the rooftops it is pretty safe to say you have fallen, and fallen hard.
3. You like doing things for him
Do you like doing little things for him to show you care? That is a sure sign you are falling in love. When you take the time to do little things to make him smile or show your affection you are happily skipping down the road to true love.
4. You want him to meet the people you love
Have you reached the point where you want him to meet the people important to you? Are you worried about their opinion of him? Want those that you love to like him?
When you start to fall in love you want the people important to you to see all the great things in that you see in that special guy.
When you are at the point that you want him to not only meet the people you love but for them to love him, then you are falling in love with him!
5. You feel you can trust him
Trust is important to a relationship. It is also a sign you have gotten comfortable and have either fallen in love or are on your way. Why? Because, trust isn’t given blindly, we take our time to truly get to know someone before we truly trust someone.
So when you find yourself trusting him it means that you feel comfortable that you know him well, and can trust the man you have come to know.
6. You factor his happiness into your plans
When we first start dating we try to put our best foot forward, that is somewhat a fake presentation. Later we tend to be more open, if we don’t like doing something we will be more honest about it.
If you aren’t into sports but he is you will likely opt to not watch the game with him, or not care that the game is on. When you reach the point that you know that the game is on and care that he might miss it to watch a movie with you, that is love.
7. You love the ugly parts too
Real love isn’t just the great moments, the fun moments, the good things, and the sexy bits. Falling in love means it can be okay to not always wear your makeup. Love is morning breath, and dealing with your partner’s family and their friends, whether or not you like them.
Love is when you take care of your partner when they have the flu rather than avoiding them until they feel better. If you are willing to be there for the unpleasant and ugly parts of a relationship than you are falling in love with him.
8. You want to share your favorites with him
When we are falling in love with someone we want to share all the things we love with them. If you have a favorite place, or restaurant, or secret recipe, or music, or a movie whatever it is. When you start wanting to share with him, show him all the things you love it is because you kinda love him too, and you want all that love to mix together in a pile of mushy happiness.
9. Time together doesn’t need to be special to be special


When your relationship shifts from dates out on the town to nights in snuggling and watching a marathon of reruns and movies in your sweats, that is a great sign that you are falling in love. A night out on the town is great no matter what stage your relationship is in, but when you don’t need a big production for the night to feel special you know that what is giving you that special feeling is the guy you are spending it with.
10. You have known him for a while
Again we fall back to movies versus reality. In movies, televisions, and novels love at first sight is common place. In reality you can look back and be certain that the first day you met you knew you were destined for love, but you weren’t in love that day.
It takes time, and if some time hasn’t passed since the day you have met, then what you are feeling may be infatuation and not love.
You know when you know…
You might wonder if you are falling in love no matter how many signs there are. There is no certainty, that may be the one thing movies get right, even on our wedding day we often have a moment or two where our nerves get the best of us. But, if you think you are in love, than you either are in love or are on your way to being in love.
The best way to figure out if this is love is to put aside your fears and to dive into your relationship and give it your all. Trust your heartfollow your gut, and check in with your mind every so often.
If you are falling in love with him odds are you will know, maybe not before others figure it out, but you will know when you are ready.

50 True Love Quotes and Messages


A beautiful collection of true love quotes to share with your lover. Getting close to define the meaning of true unconditional love through the power of words.
True Love Quotes and Messages
♥ True love may be blind, but it allows insight to which others are not privy.
♥ What is love, if not the stuff of dreams and acceptance?
♥ When love is true it merges two beings into unified energy becoming a force that is open to the secrets of life.

When love is true it merges two beings into unified energy - true love quotes

♥ True love is like riding a unicorn: You must leave yourself open to the possibility of the experience of a lifetime.
♥ Our love cannot be separated. We are one. To lose one would be to lose the other.
♥ True love that rains like the mist, falls softly, but eventually overflows.
♥ Love is blind to faults and seeks out joy. It spreads its wings and breaks the confines of the mind.
♥ True love asks for naught and willingly gives what is asked.
♥ True love that is just out of reach is unbearable, but it is inspirational as the light at the end of the tunnel.
♥ If Lover and Beloved sincerely meet, then True Love knows no bounds.
♥ True love is, above all, the gift of oneself, whether tentatively, figuratively, or unconditionally.
♥ True love seeks not to hurt or confine; it’s only aim is to open thee to thine.
♥ True love is like a bear hug. You didn’t ask for it, but there it is all up in your face and ready to wrestle.
♥ True love cannot be found, but it can find you no matter where you hide.
♥ True love has many forms and lovers take many shapes. It is pure, unbiased, and everlasting.
♥ It is a marvelous thing to be loved, only slightly less marvelous than loving.
♥ True love is pure, only its imitators can be swayed or corrupted.
♥ You cannot defy true love. The best you can hope for is some control over how it manifests in your life.
♥ True love can neither be created nor destroyed. It transforms and stays forever connected.
♥ When it comes to love, if you’re in too deep, you’re not in deep enough.
♥ The hours pass like minutes when we are together. Apart, they drag like days.
♥ True love does not bind people to each other, but rather connects them in the circle of its embrace.
True love does not bind people to each other, but rather connects them in the circle of its embrace

♥ So, you think you’ve got it under control? Think again, for true love is not meant to yield to your will.
♥ If true love does not make the world turn on its axis, then it certainly adds joy to existence on the planet.


♥ True love is true love. It cannot be hidden or imitated. It is what it is.
♥ Love is more concerned with the well being of another, the other that is most important to love.
♥ Where there is true love there is the ultimate, the infinite, and the absolute in who or what is loved.
♥ True love gives in the receiving and receives in the giving.
♥ If it is done in the name of love, then it transcends right and wrong and good and evil.
♥ True love exposes ourselves in others and celebrates the recognition.
♥ True love cannot be given. It must be received, embraced, and accepted.
♥ Love is only concerned with love. It offers no more and takes no less.
♥ True love is the eternal flame that eventually draws every moth to its light.
true love quotes - the eternal flame that eventually draws every moth to its light.

♥ True love is not bound by race, creed, sex, or species. Its power can be felt or experience by all that loves or is loved.
♥ He who finds amusement and folly in the ways of love is in for a rude awakening when She truly comes a-calling.
♥ Love cannot be rationalized, explained, or analyzed. It is meant to feel and be felt with no promises, regrets, or apologies.
♥ True love is ultimate life, the very breath of worth and existence.
♥ And then there was Love, and it changed minds, hearts, and souls.


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♥ What can be done with Love, cannot be achieved without it.
♥ True love harbors no fugitives and takes no prisoners, even though all eventually submit and are subdued in its wake.
♥ The Lover is the giver, the one who bestows. The Beloved is the receiver. All Lovers need prayer for the duration.
♥ When it comes to sailing the Sea of Love, it is she who cares the least who steers the ship.


♥ True love can only be experienced to the fullest, leaving all participants vulnerable, sated, and exhausted.
♥ Love does not need reciprocity to exist. It goes where it goes and touches whom it touches with no regard to will or purpose.
♥ Humans hold no monopoly on true love. All living creatures are programmed to receive it.
♥ To tap into True Love is to expose yourself to a universal truth that cannot be explained or denied.
♥ Touching true love is to connect with that which is greater than you and those like you.

♥ True love withstands all who would destroy it, save for those on the inside of it.
♥ True love is true light that can illuminate the darkest of souls and lift the heaviest of hearts.
♥ To love truly, is to make that love priority.


Discover the Types of Love


People may love those who love them back. The degrees of love can vary – a lot or a little. Love for one person can be more than another. It can be strong and it can be weak. Love for family is different than love for friends. There are other types of lovecharacterized by greed or vanity.

The highest form of love is the expression of spirituality. Such a kind of love comes from the belief in the supernatural or the greatest power that controls the universe. The source of divinity in love is the ability to give and receive. In fact, it is the greatest of all human qualities.
In this context, love can be defined by several types. Such a distinction helps us to understand the virtue of giving. Each of the types of love allows you to become more mature and realize its true meaning.
When you can appreciate a healthy balance of these facets of love, you will be truly able to distinguish it from self-fulfillment. Being able to implement these factors helps you to establish a happy and successful relationship.
According to 94% of the participants indicated that they wanted their spouse to be the first and foremost soul mate. In the same survey conducted, another 88% said they believe there is a special person waiting for you out there.


The ancient Greeks were just as sophisticated in the way they talked about love just like the vocabulary they used for the different varieties of coffee. Find out how these types of love can help you discover love in depth and even find your unique soulmate!
The Types of Love
Dangerous and fiery “Eros” love
Love infused with sexual passion and desire was termed as “Eros” by the ancient Greeks. Eros – the Greek God of fertility symbolizes this form of love. Back then, people of the Grecian culture did not find it as positive as we do today.
In fact, it was looked upon as fierceful, dangerous and irrational way of loving – somewhat forceful and possessive. Described as such by many Greek spiritual thinkers and also by Clive Staples Lewis (1898–1963) who was one of the intellectual giants of the twentieth century and wrote a book to emphasize his attitude.
Though Greeks are known to be valiant and romantic in nature, it is quite surprising that they termed “Eros” as the type of love where one loses control. But, that is what many people are now precisely seeking in a relationship. Don’t we all want to fall into love “madly”?


Comradely friendly of “Philia” love
This kind of love is characterized by the bond between brothers and is described as comradely friendship. The act of friendship developed between brothers that fought side by side on the battlefield and showed their loyalty to their friends by sacrificing their love is the essence of a “Philia” love.
It is about sharing your emotions with the beloved. This can also be stated as “Storge” – another kind of Philia that embodies the love between parents and their children.
Playful and flirtatious “Ludus”
The playful affection between young lovers is the type of love addressed here. Often seen in the early stages of friendship in a relationship. Getting associated with strangers is regarded as the ultimate Ludic activity.
In fact, if you go deeper into its meaning, it is not unlikely for anyone to term it as a substitute for sex itself.


Noticeable with young adults, this kind of love is often frowned upon by the society. But, if you’re looking for some playful association, the “Ludus” is the best type of love.
Selfless affection of “Agape”
The idea of “Agape” love is selfless, which can be extended to everyone – family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. This selfless love in Greek was later translated into Latin as charitas. From here comes the origin of charity. The selfless act of love appears as the highest form in most religious traditions.


Maturity in “Pragma”
Couples develop deeper understanding and learn about making compromises to ensure relationships work. The act of showing patience and tolerance allows people to realize the meaning of making the love work out.
“Pragma” is the modern day requirement with the need for couples to be more tolerant and cooperative towards each other.
Self-love of “Philautia”


If you love yourself in a healthy way, it enriches your capacity to widen your perspective of love. Instead of looking into gaining personal fame and fortune, a “Philautia” love makes you feel secure.
This concept of “self-compassion” enables you to give plenty of love to others. Like an extension of love towards your family and friends, you also spread the friendly feelings towards others as well.
Love is diverse, the Grecian theory of love describes it all. The expression of love is distinct in each type of relationship. However, most people would rather look for all these facets of love wrapped in a single soul mate or partner.
The best way to experience profound love in your bonding with others is to source and nurture these varieties of love. You can choose to be a “Pragma” to spend valuable time with your partner understanding the person better, or you could even become an “Agape” to care other others. A “Ludas” style of love could get you dancing the whole night away!
So…
If you’re thinking that you can expect all these types of love from one single person, then think again! Do not become obsessed with perfection.
A relation can begin with “Eros” and “Ludus”, then evolve to the more understanding “Pragma” and experience the divinity with an “Agape”.
In fact, you could map out the extent of love that you can harness to give and receive from others. That way you will surely get a love more love than you could have ever imagined.

How Do Men Show Their Love – 8 Signs That Every Woman Should Know



Do you ever feel like your husband is an absolute mystery? This personality-type can be alluring at first, but with time it may leave you scratching your head and wondering: “How does he feel about me?”
It is often said that women love to verbalize their love, while men like to show it in other ways. If you’re feeling like your hubby isn’t as verbal as you might like him to be with his affections, don’t despair. There are secret signs you can read that show how he is really feeling about his happy married life.
From defending their honor to tickling their legs, men have their own ways of expressing love and devotion to women – and not all of them are crystal clear to

The eight indirect ways that men show their love to women
1. He Builds Intimacy
the women in their lives!

When it comes to love in marriage, there is nothing more important than establishing an intimate connection to your spouse.
Intimacy is so much more than getting physical with your spouse. It’s about creating an emotional and physical bond.
You will know that your husband is expressing affection when he goes out of his way to communicate with you when he is feeling uneasy.
He will share goals, thoughts, feelings, and physical affection with you and he isn’t afraid to be vulnerable.
These are wonderful qualities to have in a husband that will assure you of his love for you.
2. He Defends You
It goes without saying that a man who loves his wife would never disrespect her to his friends or family.
Saying things about your cooking, cleaning, work-ethic, or sexual habits are completely off-limits in his mind. The only person he wants to discuss these things with is you.
Want to know how deep love and marriage really go in your husband’s mind? One secret way men show love is by defending you.
3. He Invites You Out
Men value their personal time with ‘the guys’. This is the evening they get to connect with friends, watch sports, play video games, and have a couple of drinks.
These are all pastimes that are healthy for your husband to pursue on his own. However, one secret way he’ll show his love for you is if he invites you out to a ‘guys night’ event. This means that not even a beer-swilling evening with the guys is worth missing out on spending time with you.
This same principle works if he is heading out to spend time with his close family and invites you along.


By extending the invitation for you to hang out with the people he loves the most, you can be sure that you make the top of that list.
4. He Gives His Time
One of the most precious things anyone can give you is their time and their undivided attention.
In fact, getting someone’s attention without a cell phone notification getting in the way may be considered ‘true love’ these days.
Jokes aside, when your husband loves you he will want to give you his time and affection – no matter what the situation.
If you’re heading out for a walk around the block or to pick up a few groceries, he’s down to go with you. If he has a night off, there is no doubt that he wants to spend it with you. This is the sign of real love from your man.
5. He Picks Up Girly Things
Want to know about true love and marriage? If your husband has a happy married life he won’t mind picking up your laundry list of ‘girly’ items from the store.

These embarrassing grocery lists may include having him buy bathroom wipes, girly deodorant, picking up the dry-cleaning, shopping for ‘unmentionable’ feminine hygiene products, or fetching your birth control.
No matter the embarrassing item, your husband is willing to risk a tinge of public unease just to make you happy. Now that’s love.
6. He Can Apologize
Apologies can be powerful. Whether you’re discussing who left the toilet seat up or why your sweetheart didn’t call you like they promised, a simple apology can do so much to diffuse a situation. It’s a way of showing respect and empathy and acknowledging wrongdoing.
Husbands who love their wives show it by apologizing when they are wrong (and hey, sometimes when he’s right!) because they put their spouse’s feelings above an argument.
This is a wonderful quality to have in a partner and shows just how much he loves you.

7. He Asks for your Advice
One of the sweetest ways a guy can show he loves and values his wife is by asking for her help and her advice on a matter. This means he values your thoughts, feelings, and intelligence enough to use it as a guidepost for any issues he’s having.
Men are often considered ‘fixers’. Whether it’s his wife’s hurt feelings or the broken door handle, men go into a problem with the intent of fixing it as soon as possible.
Men can also be proud by nature, which makes him coming to you for advice the ultimate sign that not only does he love you, but he deeply respects your opinions.
8. He Listens
Is there anything sexier than a man who listens? Some say that men fall short when it comes to listening. From squabbles with her friends to which leggings are her favorite, husband’s who love their wives will listen to whatever is on their minds.
Sometimes men can be hard to read, even if that man is your husband! It’s important to remember that men and women show their love in different ways.
If your husband is always willing to give you his time, works hard at building intimacy, and respects your opinions, you can be sure he loves you dearly.

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How Do Men Show Their Love – 8 Signs That Every Woman Should Know

How Do Men Show Their Love

Do you ever feel like your husband is an absolute mystery? This personality-type can be alluring at first, but with time it may leave you scratching your head and wondering: “How does he feel about me?”

It is often said that women love to verbalize their love, while men like to show it in other ways. If you’re feeling like your hubby isn’t as verbal as you might like him to be with his affections, don’t despair. There are secret signs you can read that show how he is really feeling about his happy married life.

From defending their honor to tickling their legs, men have their own ways of expressing love and devotion to women – and not all of them are crystal clear to the women in their lives!

The eight indirect ways that men show their love to women

1. He Builds Intimacy

When it comes to love in marriage, there is nothing more important than establishing an intimate connection to your spouse.

Intimacy is so much more than getting physical with your spouse. It’s about creating an emotional and physical bond.

You will know that your husband is expressing affection when he goes out of his way to communicate with you when he is feeling uneasy.

He will share goals, thoughts, feelings, and physical affection with you and he isn’t afraid to be vulnerable.

These are wonderful qualities to have in a husband that will assure you of his love for you.

2. He Defends You

It goes without saying that a man who loves his wife would never disrespect her to his friends or family.

Saying things about your cooking, cleaning, work-ethic, or sexual habits are completely off-limits in his mind. The only person he wants to discuss these things with is you.

Want to know how deep love and marriage really go in your husband’s mind? One secret way men show love is by defending you.

3. He Invites You Out

Men value their personal time with ‘the guys’. This is the evening they get to connect with friends, watch sports, play video games, and have a couple of drinks.

These are all pastimes that are healthy for your husband to pursue on his own. However, one secret way he’ll show his love for you is if he invites you out to a ‘guys night’ event. This means that not even a beer-swilling evening with the guys is worth missing out on spending time with you.

This same principle works if he is heading out to spend time with his close family and invites you along.

By extending the invitation for you to hang out with the people he loves the most, you can be sure that you make the top of that list.

4. He Gives His Time

One of the most precious things anyone can give you is their time and their undivided attention.

In fact, getting someone’s attention without a cell phone notification getting in the way may be considered ‘true love’ these days.

Jokes aside, when your husband loves you he will want to give you his time and affection – no matter what the situation.

If you’re heading out for a walk around the block or to pick up a few groceries, he’s down to go with you. If he has a night off, there is no doubt that he wants to spend it with you. This is the sign of real love from your man.

5. He Picks Up Girly Things

Want to know about true love and marriage? If your husband has a happy married life he won’t mind picking up your laundry list of ‘girly’ items from the store.

These embarrassing grocery lists may include having him buy bathroom wipes, girly deodorant, picking up the dry-cleaning, shopping for ‘unmentionable’ feminine hygiene products, or fetching your birth control.

No matter the embarrassing item, your husband is willing to risk a tinge of public unease just to make you happy. Now that’s love.

6. He Can Apologize

Apologies can be powerful. Whether you’re discussing who left the toilet seat up or why your sweetheart didn’t call you like they promised, a simple apology can do so much to diffuse a situation. It’s a way of showing respect and empathy and acknowledging wrongdoing.

Husbands who love their wives show it by apologizing when they are wrong (and hey, sometimes when he’s right!) because they put their spouse’s feelings above an argument.

This is a wonderful quality to have in a partner and shows just how much he loves you.

7. He Asks for your Advice

One of the sweetest ways a guy can show he loves and values his wife is by asking for her help and her advice on a matter. This means he values your thoughts, feelings, and intelligence enough to use it as a guidepost for any issues he’s having.

Men are often considered ‘fixers’. Whether it’s his wife’s hurt feelings or the broken door handle, men go into a problem with the intent of fixing it as soon as possible.

Men can also be proud by nature, which makes him coming to you for advice the ultimate sign that not only does he love you, but he deeply respects your opinions.

8. He Listens

Is there anything sexier than a man who listens? Some say that men fall short when it comes to listening. From squabbles with her friends to which leggings are her favorite, husband’s who love their wives will listen to whatever is on their minds.

Sometimes men can be hard to read, even if that man is your husband! It’s important to remember that men and women show their love in different ways.

If your husband is always willing to give you his time, works hard at building intimacy, and respects your opinions, you can be sure he loves you dearly.

THE ROMANTIC LOVE SMS for HIM OR HER

  1. My woman, real woman, ambitious woman, number 1 in category, loving you is an understatement, girl future will tell.
  2. I will never stop dreaming because you are my dream nor stop hoping because you are my hope, girl I will never stop loving because you are my LOVE.
  3. I use to be a player till I met you, you changed the game and now im in love.
  4. I woke up few minute ago and I felt incomplete then I remembered I haven’t talked with my second half, love you.
  5. I am very indecisive and always have trouble picking my favorite anything. But, without a doubt, you are my favorite everything.

WHERE IS THE GUY I MARRIED

Episode 1

“Wiiiiiieeeeeeennnn, wieeeeeeeeeeeeeeen, wieeeeeennnnnennnn” my baby’s cry geared on and on.

“Jesus, please stop her. Please calm her down. What do I know is wrong with her now?” I kept muttering to myself as I sat up and held my three month old baby in my arm. She was crying profusely.

Tears dotted her face like little puddles of water. She doesn’t want to be appeased. She refused to be breastfed too. What shall I do?

I climbed down the bed and danced around while singing lullabies for her but instead of being appeased, Blossom kept crying.
“Is it her diapers?” I asked myself. I went to her wardrobe and brought out another diaper. I went back to the bed, sat down, removed all of her clothes and off I set to the bathroom.

After giving Blossom a warm bath, I came back to the bedroom to dress her in another light, comfortable sleeper after applying sufficient powder on her body and enough oil on her scalp. Yet, the cry continued. I was frustrated.

I brought her close to my bosom as I raised my blouse but her little hands pulled my blouse down meaning “I don’t want your jugs!” She cried the more!

We were in the hospital that very day before for the ante-natal. The last vaccination was not like this o! Though she cried it was not as bad as this. This incessant cry, I have been told to anticipate but I didn’t expect it would be this much. I eased the blouse she was wearing and checked her small shoulder which was the ‘venue’ for the substance causing my baby’s discomfort. I rubbed it over and over again. She cried the more. I put my baby down, knelt beside my bed and cried!

Is this how motherhood thing is? God, this is unbearable! I cried and cried.
You might be thinking, where is your husband? Is your baby fatherless? My dear people, no! My husband is alive,. He is safe and sound.

All the while the drama unfolded, Dave slept so beautifully as if nothing was happening. My baby’s tears and my own- everything was in his ears like lullabies urging him to sleep on.
This was not the man I married!

When I just got married to him, my sleeplessness made him sleepless. When I turned on my side on the bed, he would wake up, no matter how deep his sleep was. He would cuddle me and sing into my ears till I fall I asleep but now, he just didn’t bulge.
He turned in his sleep and sat up. I looked at him and shook my head.

“Dear, are you just…” I was saying when he shut me up.
“What’s the noise about?” He asked, still very sleep-drunk.
I looked at him very intensely, my heart beat rising so fast. Can’t he see my tears? Can’t he see that I need a word of encouragement?
“Are you crying?” he asked, yawning, scratching his head and looking away. My already swollen heart ripped open that I cried aloud.

“Dave, where are you? What is happening? Where is my husband? What has happened to us?” I cried on and on. He shook his head, let out a brief hiss, came down from the bed, picked up a pillow and out of the room he went!

My cry stopped abruptly!

“Is this a dream?” I asked myself
I couldn’t hold it anymore. I tucked my already dozing baby in her small cradle and jumped out of the room as if being pursued by a jackal!

Dave was on the settee, supporting himself with the pillow and some other throw pillows. He was snoring! He looked so unbothered.
One spirit told me to slap him awake, the other told me ‘Liz, take things easy’ I obeyed the latter, walked close to him, knelt down beside him and tapped him.

“Ohhh, Liz, what’s it? Its midnight. Sleep! If not, let me sleep!” he said.

‘I won’t cry!’ I told myself. I called my Spirit, Soul and Body to let’s fight the battle together.

“Dave, what’s wrong? You couldn’t hear Blossom crying so heavily. Could you?”

“Of course I could. But you know, cuddle her, sing to her, do everything. She would sleep”

“yes, I have tried everything but they didn’t work. I think it’s the vaccination that is the cause.”

“Well, if it didn’t work when the mother tried all, would it work if I tried? Liz, try to be reasonable!” He said. I blinked so hard to avoid my tears from falling.

“You could still show care Dave. You are supposed to show me care” My eyes failed me as I started crying again. Dave hissed!

“See Liz, this cry is irritating! Grow up! What’s the difference between you and Blossom? When a grown up tries to behave like a baby, she becomes an imbecile!” he blurted out. I sat on the cold tiles, picked one of the throw pillows and I started banging it on the floor thinking the experience would wake me up from my slumber. I felt a sharp headache.

“Dave, I have lost you! Jesus, I have lost my husband!” I cried out over and over again.

Our marriage is only a year old. What is happening? Those times when I was pregnant and I was acting a kid that was sobbing, he would cuddle me and call me “my baby with my baby” while he wiped my tears. Now, this isn’t even an act and it irritated him. It didn’t pain him, it didn’t concern him! What has suddenly come over him?

He had been behaving weird and absurd for many days now but now it’s getting out of hand.

I went close to him and sat beside him. I held his hand which he reluctantly allowed. I sighed at this.

“Dave, please, let’s pray. I can sense that something is wrong.” I said. He threw my hands away, hissed and stood up.

“Don’t bring in prayers into something like this. Why are you being illogical? If you can’t let me be, I will leave the house for you” he said, wore his slip-ons and walked towards the door.

As he was about to open, I blocked him.
Where is he going to? It’s just few minutes to midnight. This night? God forbid!” I thought to myself.

I looked into his face and my heart yearned for my husband, but his eyes scared me. They were red as burning coals. My heart started racing.

I cried out as he caught my right hand and pushed me off his way into one of the arm chairs. It was so painful.

The key turned twice and the door opened. There was a loud bang as he closed the door behind him.

“Jesus! This can’t be your will right? But you told me it is Dave and no one else. That was why I said yes. You did! What’s it now?…Oh God!”

I could cry no more. The veins at the sides of my head were thumping to the extent that the noise disturbed me! My head was banging as if yam was being pounded in it. I was exhausted. My nose was blocked! My eyes were heavy.

Where is my caring, loving, prayerful and peace-loving husband and father of Blossom? It’s obviously not this monster!

Where is my husband? Can someone just tell me his whereabouts?

TO BE CONTINUED…